CHINA, NATIONAL, NEWS, BEIJING, SOCIETY: Queer As Folks - A Study of Homosexuality on Campus
By Wang Yan
"I can't see essential differences between boys and girls. They are the same. When you fall in love with someone, no matter what the person's gender is, it will be all the same to you." said Andy (an assumed name for privacy reasons), a junior student at Beijing Foreign Studies University, who is also a proverbial gay in the school.
Born in a southern province of China, Andy pursued his study in this famous university in Beijing. It was after coming to BFSU that he became gay, or rather, realized his homosexuality. As a freshman, he got to know a gay from a higher grade who later taught him many things. Before that, Andy knew almost nothing in this field, like gay films, etc. However, to be accurate, Andy is bisexual rather than homosexual, for he had some girlfriends in high school, who were all "immaculate, and quite different from girls nowadays." Saying such words, Andy displayed a clear dislike towards girls from his university. But it's not only this fact that accounts for his current sexual preference. Equally important is the intimacy he feels with boys. According to Andy, such a feeling is inborn.
"I became gay because I have the potential." Actually, the word "potential" was mentioned many times by Andy during the interview. He can tell gays from normal people and believes that most boys have the potential of being homosexual. Andy said that he had undergone a lot of things throughout his gay experience, not only having had four boyfriends, but that he had also dominated many other boys for casual sex, some of whom even had girlfriends. This gave him a feeling of superiority. When asked why these boys turned from girls to him, somewhat immodestly Andy said: "They have the inborn potential, but also I can establish intimacy with them by certain means, chatting for one. Then the feelings occur. It may take only a second for a person to turn from straightness to homosexuality, and vise versa."
Gays have their own ways to find lovers. They usually chat with other boys online and go to gay bars. "There are lots of gay bars in Beijing," Andy emphasized. In a gay-on-gay relationship, the one acting as the boy is called 1, and the other acting as the girl is called 0. But the roles are not fixed; whether one plays 1 or 0 depends on his initiative or passivity in making love.
"As gays, the most important thing is not feelings, but sex. Sexual demanding is the ultimate factor," Ashton said seriously. "You know, we call each other wives and husbands, and we're already used to this. But, it's very likely that any time you are absent, your lover will have sex with your good friend. Things are never in order here." In his opinion, this is also the major difference between gays and lesbians, for the latter do care more about feelings. To illustrate this point, Andy mentioned a couple of deeply in love lesbians who had been together for a long time but had never had sex.
Although people who are inherently gay do exist, there are lots of others who simply become gay for the purpose of playing, like Andy himself. In his daily life, Andy never minded behaving effeminately. To some extent, he did it deliberately; also, he liked being a girl. According to him, the pretending was easy. One can just add in some feminine interjections when he talks, and walk in a fashion model's way. Andy suggested that such behavior hadn't affected his life very much. Both his classmates and friends accepted it and respected his choice, though some boys joked when they first knew about it: "I would feel threatened if you like boys."
"I told them not to worry, for they were not my type at all," Andy said in a joking manner.
Mentioning his family, Andy said: "My parents do not know about my homosexuality. I once hinted at it to them, and my mother expressed her strong disapproval. She gave me a slap in the face. But I didn't really care. I have a younger brother. He can take over the responsibility of being a son, and for me, I will simply go on with what I want to do. However, things are different with my grandma. She loves me so much that she respects every decision of mine. She just wants me to be happy and free."
Though life as a gay has granted him much happiness, Andy does not regard his university life as successful. He believes that the school and he did not match, and because of his disapproval towards it, he did badly in some of his studies and didn't even pass an important exam on his specialized course.
At the end of the interview, Andy expressed his will to quit. "After all, I'm tired. Two years is long enough to make one feel weary. I've played too much...with everything. In the future I would like to form a serious relationship with some girl."
He believes that "under present conditions, many gays and lesbians will finally seek a normal marriage, mostly under pressure from their families."
"I can't see essential differences between boys and girls. They are the same. When you fall in love with someone, no matter what the person's gender is, it will be all the same to you." said Andy (an assumed name for privacy reasons), a junior student at Beijing Foreign Studies University, who is also a proverbial gay in the school.
Born in a southern province of China, Andy pursued his study in this famous university in Beijing. It was after coming to BFSU that he became gay, or rather, realized his homosexuality. As a freshman, he got to know a gay from a higher grade who later taught him many things. Before that, Andy knew almost nothing in this field, like gay films, etc. However, to be accurate, Andy is bisexual rather than homosexual, for he had some girlfriends in high school, who were all "immaculate, and quite different from girls nowadays." Saying such words, Andy displayed a clear dislike towards girls from his university. But it's not only this fact that accounts for his current sexual preference. Equally important is the intimacy he feels with boys. According to Andy, such a feeling is inborn.
"I became gay because I have the potential." Actually, the word "potential" was mentioned many times by Andy during the interview. He can tell gays from normal people and believes that most boys have the potential of being homosexual. Andy said that he had undergone a lot of things throughout his gay experience, not only having had four boyfriends, but that he had also dominated many other boys for casual sex, some of whom even had girlfriends. This gave him a feeling of superiority. When asked why these boys turned from girls to him, somewhat immodestly Andy said: "They have the inborn potential, but also I can establish intimacy with them by certain means, chatting for one. Then the feelings occur. It may take only a second for a person to turn from straightness to homosexuality, and vise versa."
Gays have their own ways to find lovers. They usually chat with other boys online and go to gay bars. "There are lots of gay bars in Beijing," Andy emphasized. In a gay-on-gay relationship, the one acting as the boy is called 1, and the other acting as the girl is called 0. But the roles are not fixed; whether one plays 1 or 0 depends on his initiative or passivity in making love.
"As gays, the most important thing is not feelings, but sex. Sexual demanding is the ultimate factor," Ashton said seriously. "You know, we call each other wives and husbands, and we're already used to this. But, it's very likely that any time you are absent, your lover will have sex with your good friend. Things are never in order here." In his opinion, this is also the major difference between gays and lesbians, for the latter do care more about feelings. To illustrate this point, Andy mentioned a couple of deeply in love lesbians who had been together for a long time but had never had sex.
Although people who are inherently gay do exist, there are lots of others who simply become gay for the purpose of playing, like Andy himself. In his daily life, Andy never minded behaving effeminately. To some extent, he did it deliberately; also, he liked being a girl. According to him, the pretending was easy. One can just add in some feminine interjections when he talks, and walk in a fashion model's way. Andy suggested that such behavior hadn't affected his life very much. Both his classmates and friends accepted it and respected his choice, though some boys joked when they first knew about it: "I would feel threatened if you like boys."
"I told them not to worry, for they were not my type at all," Andy said in a joking manner.
Mentioning his family, Andy said: "My parents do not know about my homosexuality. I once hinted at it to them, and my mother expressed her strong disapproval. She gave me a slap in the face. But I didn't really care. I have a younger brother. He can take over the responsibility of being a son, and for me, I will simply go on with what I want to do. However, things are different with my grandma. She loves me so much that she respects every decision of mine. She just wants me to be happy and free."
Though life as a gay has granted him much happiness, Andy does not regard his university life as successful. He believes that the school and he did not match, and because of his disapproval towards it, he did badly in some of his studies and didn't even pass an important exam on his specialized course.
At the end of the interview, Andy expressed his will to quit. "After all, I'm tired. Two years is long enough to make one feel weary. I've played too much...with everything. In the future I would like to form a serious relationship with some girl."
He believes that "under present conditions, many gays and lesbians will finally seek a normal marriage, mostly under pressure from their families."
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