CHINA, NATIONAL, NEWS, SOCIETY, Sex Education: Face It or Avoid It?
By Dan Ran
"Will I be pregnant? I kissed with my boyfriend yesterday!" A girl asked on a telephone call through a sexual knowledge hot-line.
"What's the big deal? I've got used to it already." A school girl who has just had the 10th abortion said indifferently.
These scenes are far from exaggerated; instead, they are typical enough. In China, open sexual knowledge finds no way into school campuses. Up till now, 41% of the middle school students in Nanjing know simply nothing about condoms. Even university students always find it a shame to talk about or to face topics like contraception.
Ignorance, however, is only one side of the story. On the other hand, we see that the sexual experience of some teenagers is stunning.
A recent survey conducted in Shanghai shows that more than 30% of the high school students have experienced marginal sexual behaviors such as hugging, kissing and petting. And a stunning proportion of 3.5% of them have had sexual behavior.
Another statistics shows 6% to 10% of middle school students in China have had sexual behaviors.
Yang Yu(anonymous), male,18, a high school student in Beijing, described that about 60% to 70% of his classmates have sex relationships. He himself first had sex with his girlfriend at the age of 17, and has sex once to three times a week now, which usually happens in his girlfriend's house.
Among these students, not a single one use condoms during sexual behaviors.
When asked about the channels through which they attain sexual knowledge, Zhang Ziqian(anonymous), a high school student in Beijing,said,"We simply teach ourselves, from DVDs, or those blue movies downloaded from the Internet. Sex education at school stopped since high school, and it is simply useless. They did not mention even a word about contraception or other concrete details."
According to the statistics from official documents, 70% teenagers in Nanjing gain sexual knowledge from blue websites.
Zhang said,"Both boy and girl classmates download blue movies online. Most of them get the movies from the BT downloading system.""Books about sexual knowledge are so expensive that we can't afford them. DVDs are much cheaper, about 8 Yuan each. We have watched those blue movie DVDs since junior school, a group of us boys together of course, without girls."said Zhang,"We do it simply for learning about sex."
Parents, according to the teenagers, are rarely the source from which they obtain sexual knowledge.
"How can I discuss such questions with my son? So disgusting and dirty!"A father severely responded when asked about why he does not teach his son some sexual knowledge.
"I find it hard to talk about sex face to face with my daughter. It’s something so elusive that it can only be learned through senses, not explained by words." A mother said expressing her problem.
Ignorance, added with the overwhelming popularity of sexual behavior among the teenagers, leads to disasters. Zhang said," Most of the lovers I know have sex relationships. And of course there are girls who have to have abortion."
According to a gynecologist in Guangzhou, out of every 10 females who come to her for induced abortions, 3 are girls under 18. And the proportion is increasing at a speed of 1% to 2% every year. Most of the girls hide the fact of having an abortion from their parents, and without sufficient restorative for better recovery which can only be provided by experienced adults, an increasing number of them are suffering from venereal disease.
Sex, in the eyes of a large number of parents, is connected with evil and even crime.
"If he (her daughter’s boyfriend) has any sexual desire towards my girl, I will definitely stop them from seeing each other by all means."A mother said when asked about how she sees her daughter's having a boyfriend.
"A boy should control himself, and a girl should restrain herself. Otherwise, their love is dirty and shamed." A junior school teacher said.
"When children enter their adolescence, there is an increase in the secretion of hormones, which results in the rapid development of sexual function."A sex expert said,"When this is mixed with the exterior temptation, children are most probably to have more intensive demand to express their sexual excitement and sexual nervousness. However, children lack the same living conditions as adults, and thus their sex demands are usually oppressed, thus adolescence sex anxiety ensues. Who can assure that children will not commit wrong doings in such a mental condition?"
"To face it or to avoid it, it is time to think it over."said the expert.
"Will I be pregnant? I kissed with my boyfriend yesterday!" A girl asked on a telephone call through a sexual knowledge hot-line.
"What's the big deal? I've got used to it already." A school girl who has just had the 10th abortion said indifferently.
These scenes are far from exaggerated; instead, they are typical enough. In China, open sexual knowledge finds no way into school campuses. Up till now, 41% of the middle school students in Nanjing know simply nothing about condoms. Even university students always find it a shame to talk about or to face topics like contraception.
Ignorance, however, is only one side of the story. On the other hand, we see that the sexual experience of some teenagers is stunning.
A recent survey conducted in Shanghai shows that more than 30% of the high school students have experienced marginal sexual behaviors such as hugging, kissing and petting. And a stunning proportion of 3.5% of them have had sexual behavior.
Another statistics shows 6% to 10% of middle school students in China have had sexual behaviors.
Yang Yu(anonymous), male,18, a high school student in Beijing, described that about 60% to 70% of his classmates have sex relationships. He himself first had sex with his girlfriend at the age of 17, and has sex once to three times a week now, which usually happens in his girlfriend's house.
Among these students, not a single one use condoms during sexual behaviors.
When asked about the channels through which they attain sexual knowledge, Zhang Ziqian(anonymous), a high school student in Beijing,said,"We simply teach ourselves, from DVDs, or those blue movies downloaded from the Internet. Sex education at school stopped since high school, and it is simply useless. They did not mention even a word about contraception or other concrete details."
According to the statistics from official documents, 70% teenagers in Nanjing gain sexual knowledge from blue websites.
Zhang said,"Both boy and girl classmates download blue movies online. Most of them get the movies from the BT downloading system.""Books about sexual knowledge are so expensive that we can't afford them. DVDs are much cheaper, about 8 Yuan each. We have watched those blue movie DVDs since junior school, a group of us boys together of course, without girls."said Zhang,"We do it simply for learning about sex."
Parents, according to the teenagers, are rarely the source from which they obtain sexual knowledge.
"How can I discuss such questions with my son? So disgusting and dirty!"A father severely responded when asked about why he does not teach his son some sexual knowledge.
"I find it hard to talk about sex face to face with my daughter. It’s something so elusive that it can only be learned through senses, not explained by words." A mother said expressing her problem.
Ignorance, added with the overwhelming popularity of sexual behavior among the teenagers, leads to disasters. Zhang said," Most of the lovers I know have sex relationships. And of course there are girls who have to have abortion."
According to a gynecologist in Guangzhou, out of every 10 females who come to her for induced abortions, 3 are girls under 18. And the proportion is increasing at a speed of 1% to 2% every year. Most of the girls hide the fact of having an abortion from their parents, and without sufficient restorative for better recovery which can only be provided by experienced adults, an increasing number of them are suffering from venereal disease.
Sex, in the eyes of a large number of parents, is connected with evil and even crime.
"If he (her daughter’s boyfriend) has any sexual desire towards my girl, I will definitely stop them from seeing each other by all means."A mother said when asked about how she sees her daughter's having a boyfriend.
"A boy should control himself, and a girl should restrain herself. Otherwise, their love is dirty and shamed." A junior school teacher said.
"When children enter their adolescence, there is an increase in the secretion of hormones, which results in the rapid development of sexual function."A sex expert said,"When this is mixed with the exterior temptation, children are most probably to have more intensive demand to express their sexual excitement and sexual nervousness. However, children lack the same living conditions as adults, and thus their sex demands are usually oppressed, thus adolescence sex anxiety ensues. Who can assure that children will not commit wrong doings in such a mental condition?"
"To face it or to avoid it, it is time to think it over."said the expert.
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