SOCIETY, Life Style: A Legendary Campus Love Story
By Song Mo
"It was the power of fate that brought us together. Though we have troubles from time to time, it has never occurred to us that we would say goodbye." Xu, a senior in a Shanghai university, got his girlfriend in 2003. Different from other lovers, during the past three years, Xu and his girlfriend met only four times.
Xu's girlfriend is the same age as him, and she is a Beijing girl who is now studying in a Beijing university. When telling his romantic love story, Xu seems very intoxicated, as if it happened not long ago.
"It's a complicated story," Xu says. "In my dorm, there is a boy from Beijing, and his girlfriend is in a university in Beijing. One day I wrote a poem in my leisure time, and my roommate read it to his girlfriend. My girlfriend is her roommate. She read that poem to her as well."
Unexpectedly, the girl was touched by Xu’s talent and sent a short message to him, with a few words like, "Hi, poet."
Thanks to short messages, soon they became familiar with each other. Seven days later, Xu had the courage to ask her if she wanted to be his girlfriend. "Yes, I do," the girl answered.
When asked how he could fall in love with a girl he never met, Xu replied, "It is the power of fate. She left me with a very good first impression, kind and warm."
As time goes by, Xu confessed that his girlfriend is much more "real" to him. As a mathematics major, Xu is very logical when it comes to thinking of ways to maintain the relationship. "I think that the most important thing is to find out our common ground, which is what we seek. Usually we talk about things that happened to us, to share and get to know what the other is thinking about."
Three years have passed, yet their passion has not faded away. Now, Xu sends about 2000 short messages a month, so does his girlfriend. From time to time, they call each other or chat and talk on the internet. Xu said that most of the time they can fully express their feelings and thoughts, because they are honest to each other. Sometimes, like other couples, they quarrel as well--a cold war or furious words. "But the form of short messaging makes it less furious than face-to-face quarrels," Xu said.
Special festivals--birthday and Valentine’s Day for instance--are lovers' happiest days; but to Xu and his girlfriend, they are no less than the worst days. "Honestly speaking, I'm afraid of those days. All lovers long for being with the other half on those days, but we have no choice," Xu said frankly. "Sometimes my girlfriend will feel lonely, and I promise her that I will make it up to her in the future. Now we send each other gifts to celebrate."
Helplessly, Xu misses his girlfriend very much. Till now, they have met merely four times. Owing to financial and "political" reasons, it is unlikely for them to see each other quite often. "One trip costs 2,000 Yuan (US$250), which costs us a whole semester to save from our pocket money."
What is more, parents on both sides do not allow them to see each other, so it is impossible to make the trip during summer and winter vacations. Therefore, the only suitable time is during school weeks, and one of them has to skip a week's course and come to visit the other's city. It sounds pathetic, but as Xu said, "You must make a choice and sacrifice something. And I choose this."
As for parents' attitudes, Xu is very understanding. "They are very considerate, I should say. They are much more realistic than us, and think much more, I'm afraid, that we will get hurt and miss new opportunities. Now we are trying to win their support, and they have gotten used to it and no longer oppose it like before. It's good news."
Serious and faithful of their relationship, they are facing more troubles than ordinary couples indeed. For example, what are they going to do after graduation? Where should they live, Beijing or Shanghai? Obsessed with these real problems, Xu is nevertheless optimistic. "The future is unpredictable, but one thing is sure, which is that we will get married. Though a lot of things need our consideration, we must be optimistic."
Nowadays there are many "Xu's form" couples, who live in two different cities and maintain their relationships by modern technologies. They face more troubles yet own their unique happiness.
"Till now, do you still believe that she is the one who is for you?"
"Definitely yes," Xu said, confidently.
"It was the power of fate that brought us together. Though we have troubles from time to time, it has never occurred to us that we would say goodbye." Xu, a senior in a Shanghai university, got his girlfriend in 2003. Different from other lovers, during the past three years, Xu and his girlfriend met only four times.
Xu's girlfriend is the same age as him, and she is a Beijing girl who is now studying in a Beijing university. When telling his romantic love story, Xu seems very intoxicated, as if it happened not long ago.
"It's a complicated story," Xu says. "In my dorm, there is a boy from Beijing, and his girlfriend is in a university in Beijing. One day I wrote a poem in my leisure time, and my roommate read it to his girlfriend. My girlfriend is her roommate. She read that poem to her as well."
Unexpectedly, the girl was touched by Xu’s talent and sent a short message to him, with a few words like, "Hi, poet."
Thanks to short messages, soon they became familiar with each other. Seven days later, Xu had the courage to ask her if she wanted to be his girlfriend. "Yes, I do," the girl answered.
When asked how he could fall in love with a girl he never met, Xu replied, "It is the power of fate. She left me with a very good first impression, kind and warm."
As time goes by, Xu confessed that his girlfriend is much more "real" to him. As a mathematics major, Xu is very logical when it comes to thinking of ways to maintain the relationship. "I think that the most important thing is to find out our common ground, which is what we seek. Usually we talk about things that happened to us, to share and get to know what the other is thinking about."
Three years have passed, yet their passion has not faded away. Now, Xu sends about 2000 short messages a month, so does his girlfriend. From time to time, they call each other or chat and talk on the internet. Xu said that most of the time they can fully express their feelings and thoughts, because they are honest to each other. Sometimes, like other couples, they quarrel as well--a cold war or furious words. "But the form of short messaging makes it less furious than face-to-face quarrels," Xu said.
Special festivals--birthday and Valentine’s Day for instance--are lovers' happiest days; but to Xu and his girlfriend, they are no less than the worst days. "Honestly speaking, I'm afraid of those days. All lovers long for being with the other half on those days, but we have no choice," Xu said frankly. "Sometimes my girlfriend will feel lonely, and I promise her that I will make it up to her in the future. Now we send each other gifts to celebrate."
Helplessly, Xu misses his girlfriend very much. Till now, they have met merely four times. Owing to financial and "political" reasons, it is unlikely for them to see each other quite often. "One trip costs 2,000 Yuan (US$250), which costs us a whole semester to save from our pocket money."
What is more, parents on both sides do not allow them to see each other, so it is impossible to make the trip during summer and winter vacations. Therefore, the only suitable time is during school weeks, and one of them has to skip a week's course and come to visit the other's city. It sounds pathetic, but as Xu said, "You must make a choice and sacrifice something. And I choose this."
As for parents' attitudes, Xu is very understanding. "They are very considerate, I should say. They are much more realistic than us, and think much more, I'm afraid, that we will get hurt and miss new opportunities. Now we are trying to win their support, and they have gotten used to it and no longer oppose it like before. It's good news."
Serious and faithful of their relationship, they are facing more troubles than ordinary couples indeed. For example, what are they going to do after graduation? Where should they live, Beijing or Shanghai? Obsessed with these real problems, Xu is nevertheless optimistic. "The future is unpredictable, but one thing is sure, which is that we will get married. Though a lot of things need our consideration, we must be optimistic."
Nowadays there are many "Xu's form" couples, who live in two different cities and maintain their relationships by modern technologies. They face more troubles yet own their unique happiness.
"Till now, do you still believe that she is the one who is for you?"
"Definitely yes," Xu said, confidently.
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